You should know by now that I have a love for reading.
You should also know by now that I am obsessed with Mindy Kaling.
It is like a matchmake in heaven when I read Mindy Kaling’s second memoir, Why Not Me?. Reading her book is fun, not only because the content is funny (as expected from Goodreads Choice Awards 2015 Winner for Best Humor), but also because you’ll automatically read the book in her Minnie Mouse voice and it just sounds really funny when you read it. I started this book during winter break and I finished it yesterday, and I have to say that I really, really love it.
I personally prefer this book over her first memoir, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?, because in this book Mindy discusses more about her experience with The Mindy Project, which is where I got to know her; and her stories and thoughts about friendships and relationships were just really relatable to me. The writer/producer/actress/comedian can be really empowering in her way, to young women of my age and many others. There were so many parts of the books that I had to shout “Amen!” to, and I feel obliged to share them with you today.
These are the Top 10 quotes that I really love from Why Not Me?, enjoy!
1. If you’ve got it, flaunt it. And if you don’t got it? Flaunt it. ’Cause what are we even doing here if we’re not flaunting it?
2. But it’s not that I think I’m so great. I just don’t hate myself. I do idiotic things all the time and I say crazy stuff I regret, but I don’t let everything traumatize me. And the scary thing I have noticed is that some people really feel uncomfortable around women who don’t hate themselves. So that’s why you need to be a little bit brave.
3. People get scared when you try to do something, especially when it looks like you’re succeeding. People do not get scared when you’re failing. It calms them.
4. What’s so wrong with effort, anyway? It means you care.
5. Have you ever used your neighbor’s Wi-Fi when it wasn’t on a password? If you have the opportunity to observe someone at work, you are getting mentoring out of them even if they are unaware or resistant. Make a list of the people you think would make the greatest mentors and try to get close enough to steal their Wi-Fi.
6. Work hard, know your shit, show your shit, and then feel entitled.
7. The truth is, it’s hard to get people to like you, but it’s even harder to keep people liking you. You’d have to bring in Skittles every single day.
8. It felt to me like I was making more of an effort than he was, and when I sensed that, I pulled back, not returning his calls or texts because I felt hurt. But none of that mattered, because I knew the truth, which is if someone really wants to see you, they always find a way. Always.
9. It’s traumatizing to think that a best friend could become just a friend. That’s because there is virtually no difference between an acquaintance and a friend. But the gulf between a friend and a best friend is enormous and profound.
10. We do a thing in America, which is to label people “workaholics” and tell them that work is ruining their lives. It’s such a widespread opinion that it seems like the premise to every indie movie is “Workaholic mom comes home to find that her entire family hates her. It’s not until she cuts back on work, smokes a little pot, and takes up ballroom dancing classes with her neglected husband that she realizes what is truly important in life. Not work.” Working parents have now eclipsed shady Russian-esque operatives as America’s most popular choice of movie villain. And to some degree, I understand why the trope exists. It probably resonates because most people in this country hate their jobs. The economies of entire countries like Turks and Caicos are banking on US citizens hating their jobs and wanting to get away from it all. And I understand that. But it’s a confusing message for kids.
The reason I’m bringing this up is not to defend my status as someone who always works. (I swear I’m not that Tiger Mom lady! I don’t think you need to play piano for eleven hours with no meals! Or only watch historical movies, then write reports on them for me to read and grade!) It’s just that, the truth is, I have never, ever, ever met a highly confident and successful person who is not what a movie would call a “workaholic.” We can’t have it both ways, and children should know that.
Because confidence is like respect; you have to earn it.
And there you go, 10 quotes from Why Not Me? that I really love and feel obliged to share with you. One of my personal challenge in 2016 is to read 16 books, and I’m really glad to be starting the year with such a light yet inspiring read. I highly recommend it to those who enjoys humor, wants to be empowered in a not-so-serious way, and loves to read in a high-pitched, Minnie mouse-y voice.
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