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Know Yourself – Getting to Know You!

Previously, I talked about my go-to goal setting method that can help you navigate your life choices. While it’s important to know your end goal, a dream will remain a dream if you don’t work towards it. Whether you’re trying to find your first job, sick of your current job and are seeking something new, or choosing your university courses, it’s important to know yourself, to understand what you have or lack, and work towards the path that can lead you to your final destination.

Getting to know yourself, what strengths you own or weaknesses that you can improve on, can help you determine your working style or the field of job that is more suited for yourself. Here are a few ways you can get to know yourself better:

1. DIY – Do it yourself, since you know yourself the best!

All you need is 15-minutes to yourself, a piece of paper, and a pen. Ready? Let’s do this!

Step 1 – Split your paper into two columns and list down your weaknesses on the right column. Be as honest as you can be to yourself. Ask yourself questions like:

  • what qualities do I have that make me feel like a loser?
  • what do I do worse compared to my peers?
  • what are the things that people complain the most about me?

Step 2 – Now that you’re done feeling shitty about yourself, you should probably remind yourself that you’re not too bad after all. On the left column, I want you to list down your strengths. Be as vain or narcissistic as you want and ask yourself:

  • what am I proud of about myself?
  • what do I do better compared to others?
  • what do I always get complimented for?

Once you are done with these two columns, it will be easier for you to identify your strengths that you can leverage on, and weaknesses that you need to improve to help you achieve your goal.

2. Ask your friends and family 

Chances are, your friends and family members may recognize you for other strengths and weaknesses that you don’t know. Reach out to them personally and ask them with an open heart. If you think that they are not going to be honest with their thoughts or opinions, why not create an anonymous form and ask your questions there? Post this on your personal social media accounts or send them the link via text messages. 

Google Forms is a free online survey and Q&A tool that is easy to use. This is an example that I used personally when I was trying to reevaluate myself not long ago.

3. Take free personality tests!

There are so many free personality tests out there that you can use to get to know yourself better, why not make good use of them? One of my favourite platform is The test takes less than 12 minutes, and has been translated into more than 30 languages to help you understand the questions and personality traits better.  

I’ve taken this test 3 times in the past 2 years and I always get back the same result, “The Campaigner” (ENFP-T). Reading through the descriptions gives me goosebumps, even my friend couldn’t stop shouting “OMG this is sooooo you!!!!” when I showed her the results. LOL

Getting to know myself had helped me a lot in finding clarity and planning my next steps. I hope that these tips will be helpful to you too. I’d love to hear about the new things that you learned about yourself through any of these test, so be sure drop me a comment about it! 

P/s: This scene from College Road Trip was playing on my mind non stop when I was writing this blog post. I’m just gonna leave it here for your entertainment too. ?

Featured photo by Jakub Gorajek on Unsplash